Ask tough questions dating
With no disrespect to premarital surveys (I believe in their value), it would be nice if you could simply take a test, identify red flags and green lights, give them a number value, and calculate if you should move forward or not. Many people get married because of a fear of loneliness, of not having anymore chances in life to find love.The thought that my friend is the last "fish in the sea" will tend to create desperation.
And even if you don't, your worth isn't based upon finding someone who will marry you.
I believe that because it has become so easy to find, talk to, and meet up with someone, there is little risk involved and therefore less effort to create real connection.
You meet up with someone to make small talk for a few hours hoping to convince them that you are a fascinating, charming person.
Feel free to give us a call here at the Focus on the Family Counseling department. Our licensed counselors or chaplains would love to speak with you and, if you would like, can direct you toward local Christian counselors.
Once upon a time, people actually met in real life to date.
Is it possible that there might not be any red flags in your relationship now, yet issues arise later in your spouse? There are no guarantees that a spouse might not walk away from you, God, or emotional health.